It happened because of what you made things mean in your childhood. ![]() More on this coming soon - click here to make sure you don’t miss it.) As Danielle LaPorte put it, “I’m not against religion, I’m against oppression.” That is a huge baseline for a lot of women as to where the worth issues originated. Sadly, it’s a core belief in many religions. How dare any human make anyone feel like they have to earn their inherent worth? It is unacceptable, and we cannot be available for it anymore. And, depending on your religious background, being influenced to think that you are the “original sinner” and you have to earn your worth. Where does this insidious idea that you’re “not enough” originate?įrom things that happened in your childhood. I hate that it’s an excuse that women fall back on, a crutch we use, instead of doing the inner work necessary to never feel like an imposter again. I hate imposter syndrome because it’s a lie. There’s a fourth sign that pervades all three of the above, one you’re probably familiar with: imposter syndrome. This is often a woman who looks like everything’s rocking on the outside… and on the inside she is overwhelmed, harried, stretched thin, exhausted, snapping at her kids and partner, working late and on the weekends, neglecting her self-care and social life. Ha)įor all my women out there who take pride in control - the constant hustle, the striving - somewhere inside you believe that the more you achieve, the more success you gain, the more external things you have (think: big house, nice car, the right clothes, “good” kids) the more “enough” you are. And if you do manage to assert yourself, doubt flies in faster than a mosquito to warm blood. You don’t ask for help or for what you really need - childcare support, a personal or executive assistant, for your teammate to step up her game. It might even show up in you physically: bulky clothes that hide your figure, colors that don’t call attention, sitting with your legs tightly crossed and your hands tucked between them. When asked what you want, you waffle instead of saying what you mean. ![]() You struggle to have a real opinion, whether it’s choosing where to go for dinner, asserting your idea in a meeting, or telling your partner what feels good during sex. Your voice is stifled (you make yourself small) You are making others’ needs more important than your own. If you are compromising yourself, you are not standing in your worth. When you know the truth of your worth, you draw a line in the sand to say what you’re available for and what you’re not. It’s making your value dependent on outside validation, and it’s seeking the feeling of being liked for how much you do. On top of the big meeting they’re executing and the new service they’re offering and getting to the gym, yes of course I’ll put together a class gift basket for my son’s teacher!īeing all things to all people is not honoring your worth. They pretzels themselves to be all things to all people. This comes out with many of the women I work with: they’ve become people-pleasing contortionists. You’re all things to all people (and you have shit boundaries) How do you know if you have worth work to do? 1. 4 Glaring Signs You Must Do Your Worth Work™ Not convinced? Tell me if these signs are familiar…. Word to the wise: “worth” and “enough-ness” are interchangeable. Because every single woman goes through this.) (Show me a woman who’s never had this thought, and… wait. Listen: every single woman (every human, really, but I work with women) suffers from this true pandemic: not feeling like “enough”: good enough, smart enough, tall enough, pretty enough, experienced enough… fill-in-the-blank enough. And it starts here, with what you believe about your enough-ness. And what the world needs right now, always and especially as we face an unprecedented global crisis, are people abundant with the conviction of their worth and the energy that follows to serve each other and bring peace. They are stifling your brilliance, your joy, and your ability to serve and impact others. ![]() The lies you’ve been believing about your worth are crippling you. We need to have a conversation about your self-worth, right now. Sit down, buckle up, and turn off your notifications.
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